Many times I have sat across the counseling desk from a disgruntled spouse, listening intently to their viewpoint, only to sit across from their partner in another session and hear a dramatically opposite viewpoint. Each partner could have passed a lie detector test as they presented what they had seen, heard and thus perceived to be true in their relationship.
In the dynamics of relationship, there lie things that are known as well as things that are unknown. Drawing conclusions without all the facts leads any relationship down a pathway to destruction.
If our viewing lens could see as God sees, how different would be our perspective. He’s the only one with all the facts. We, however, become enslaved by the limitations of our viewpoint because we can only see in part.
The power to change perception is by changing perspective ~ by choice. True perspective, I suggest, is the act of seeing through a cleansed lens; perception is the act of drawing a conclusion either through a cleansed or an uncleansed lens. The problem may be that we have pre-conceived thoughts. Or those formed by prejudice or pride? Or from misinformation? Whatever has clouded the view is going to determine the perception.
The late Al Neuharth, who created a national newspaper through satellite technology, said: “The difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective.” His goal in life was to “present accurate and fair information without opinion.”
If we choose to see good, we will find it. If we choose skepticism and distrust, we will find it. Our perceptions are formed by the lens through which we form our thoughts, what we call our ‘experience,’ and thus what we process to be true…according to our lens.
“But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!” [Matthew 6:23]
Jesus’ spoke of truth perceived through a cleansed lens: “But blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear!”[Matthew 13:16]